2016 Resolutions
Well, one month into 2016 and I haven’t written once about
my resolutions.
They are:
1.
Keep a gratitude journal
2.
Learn and practice self-acceptance
3.
Be open to love
4.
Start a travel fund
5.
Meet with a financial planner
6.
Move into a place that I love and can afford in
July
7.
Spend less than $20/month on coffee/at cafe’s
8.
Practice compassion
Phew. Some pretty hefty resolutions....
1.
Keep a gratitude journal
Done and DONE!!! It’s actually an app that i downloaded on
my phone, and every day there is a little reminder set to write down what I’m
grateful for. Since being sick since January 4th and doing the
divorce mambo, some days have been, “The really really good soup I ate for
supper” was what I was grateful for. But I do it every night before I go to
bed, and it FORCES me to think positive before I fall asleep. The app also lets
me look back to the earlier entries...some are serious, some are moving, and
some are ridiculous....
2.
Learn and practice self-acceptance
There are a few things that previously, I did not like about
myself. One, that I’ve spoken pretty openly about, is my weight. And another
big one is my sensitivity. I don’t know how to describe this. There are times
where I present a strong exterior, and inside, I’m falling apart. There are
other times where I just plain fall apart. I’ve beaten myself up for this trait
for YEARS now. I should be STRONG and ALWAYS CONFIDENT and ALWAYS SELF ASSURED
and not just a wimp. I should cry less and have be less sensitive to other’s
comments.
While I agree that I have to work on taking comments less
personally, I don’t have to work on being less sensitive. My sensitivity – whether
I show it or not, is part of who I am. It’s a trait that is the same as my big
nose or my green eyes. I can’t change this. I can manage my sensitivity in
productive ways, but I shouldn’t chase it away. This is just ONE of the things
that I’m working on....another post on my how I’ve learn to accept my weight to
come. (And it’s a pretty big shocker!!!)
3.
Be open to love
Nope, nope,
and nope. Nothing to add at this point.
4.
Start a travel fund
Well, I haven’t received my first paycheque yet (tomorrow),
so i haven’t progressed on this resolution either.
5.
Meet with a financial planner
Will start looking for one this month.
6.
Move into a place that I love and can afford in
July
July 1st in Quebec isn’t Canada Day, it’s Moving
Day (I’m serious – Google it). I’ve already started looking and I have an idea
of what neighborhood I’d like to live in, but it’s still a tiny bit too early.
But I’ve put my name in and I’m starting to look at places this weekend.
7.
Spend less than $20/month on coffee/at cafe’s
JANUARY: FAIL
FEBRUARY: Well...yesterday I spent $16 at Starbucks. I’m
just going to call it a FAIL
8.
Practice compassion
The theory here is that for me to be compassionate with
myself, I have to be compassionate with others.
I don’t know. I’m confused. I thought I was practicing
compassion with my ex….it failed miserably. I’d like to get back into reading
and I have some fantastic Pema Chodron (a Buddhist nun) books on this very
subject. I don’t think I’m particularly compassionate to myself. I think I’m
pretty hard on myself, but getting a lot better.
I don’t want to blame the divorce process for
everything....but it certainly has an effect on how I value myself, how I
practice compassion, and obviously, how and if I’m open to love....
I hope that next month I have more to update, but I think I’m
off to a pretty great start.
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